A woman who claims she was engaged to a ghost has revealed that she called off the wedding, after her spirit fiancé ‘changed’ on a holiday to Thailand.
Amethyst Realm, 32, from Bristol, met the love of her life, a spirit called Ray, on a trip to Australia in 2018, after claiming to have had several sexual encounters with ghosts over the years.
The pair had planned to get married and have a baby, but appearing on This Morning today, Amethyst revealed that she’s called off the big day, after a disastrous holiday last May, where she suspected her fiancé of ‘drinking and doing drugs’.
After ‘falling into he wrong crowd’ of spirits, he would bring back various unknown ghosts into their hotel room, and eventually she had to resort to kicking him out of their house by cleansing her home with sage.
Amethyst Realm, 32, from Bristol, pictured in 2018, met the love of her life, a spirit called Ray, on trip to Australia in 2018 , after claiming to have had several sexual encounters with ghosts over the years
‘We’ve called the wedding off,’ said Amethyst. ‘It was going really well until we went on holiday and that was last May, and he just completely changed.
‘I think he fell in with a bad crowd while on holiday, he would disappear for long periods of time and bring back other spirits to the house, and yeah he just changed.’
Despite the loved-up couple’s holiday getting off to a great start, with Amethyst telling the show’s researchers the pair had had sex in the toilet of the plane, their romance soon came crashing down after his partying became too much for her.
‘I think maybe he started doing drugs and partying a bit much’, she told, ‘These spirits would stay for days, there would be crashing and banging and strange noises.’
The pair had planned to get married and have a baby, but appearing on This Morning today, Amethyst revealed that she’s called off the big day
She told hosts Holly Willoughby and Philip Schofield she called off the wedding after a disastrous holiday last May, where she suspected her fiancé of ‘drinking and doing drugs’
A confused Philip Schofield asked how exactly Ray was doing drugs, and whether he was partying in the physical or spiritual world.
She cleared things up: ‘I think partying in both judging by him disappearing for a while and coming back to mine.
‘I’ve never had negative experiences with spirits before, but this was pretty scary, one would just follow me and another one would leave a constant bad smell, things were being moved.’
Not willing to let their relationship go, Amethyst tried talking some sense into Ray, but after he proved himself unable to change, she kicked him out the house with a sage cleanse.
Ray and Amethyst, pictured on the show in 2018, had planned to wed at Wookey Hole caves in Somerset, and she explained that both her and Ray’s family were heartbroken by the news the engagement was off
‘I tried to talk to him’, she said, ‘And I gave him once chance after another and he just didn’t change.
‘In the end, I did sage cleansing, I just had to get rid of him in the way I would any other spirit.’
Ray and Amethyst had planned to wed at Wookey Hole caves in Somerset, and she explained that both her and Ray’s family were heartbroken by the news the engagement was off.
Speaking of her sister, she said: ‘She was [sad]. Ray’s family I’ve had a little bit of contact with and they’re sad about how he’s behaving.’
But Amethyst suggested that it could be the stress of the pandemic which is causing Ray to act out, revealing that ghosts too have to socially distance from one another, in fear of ‘getting ill’
But Amethyst suggested that it could be the stress of the pandemic which is causing Ray to act out, revealing that ghosts too have to socially distance from one another, in fear of ‘getting ill’.
‘Ghosts also have to socially distance, of course’, she said, ‘It affects us all. They’d get ill just as we would.’
‘Ghosts can get ill?, asked Phil, to which she simply replied: ‘Yeah’.
Amethyst communicated with Ray through ‘energy and emotion and feelings’, rather than with words, and while she’s devastated at her loss, she hasn’t ruled out eventually dating another ghost.
‘I’m happy free and single at the moment to be honest’, she said, ‘Not put off spirits, i’m sure eventually i’ll be ready for another one. For the moment i’m just happy being free and single.’
WHAT THE SCIENTISTS SAY…
Amethyst Realm says she has sex with ghosts
Christopher French, professor of psychology at Goldsmiths College, University of London, and co-author of Anomalistic Psychology: Exploring Paranormal Belief And Experience says that ghostly experiences are not anything to do with mental illness.
‘We need to avoid any kind of simplistic notion that anyone who has weird experiences is suffering from a mental illness.
‘What is generally accepted is that hallucinatory experiences are much more common in the non-clinical, totally well-functioning part of the population than was once appreciated. Anyone can have hallucinations — particularly if you are stressed or sleep-deprived.’
Professor French believes that most cases of ‘sex with ghosts’ can be explained easily.
‘Sleep paralysis is common — 20 to 40 per cent of people say they’ve experienced it — and is the state between sleep and wakefulness when you realise you can’t move. In a smaller percentage of the population, you get associated symptoms that can be very scary. One that’s commonly reported is a sense of a presence — something or someone in the room with you.
‘You can also get hallucinations where you see dark shadows or monstrous figures, you can get auditory hallucinations — you hear voices, footsteps — and also tactile hallucinations.
‘You can feel as if you’re being held, you might feel as if someone is breathing on the back of your neck, you can feel as if you’re being dragged out of the bed.
‘During a normal night’s sleep, you go through different stages and it’s REM sleep that’s associated with vivid dreams.’